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May 1, 2000
The Mental Toughness Sphere vs. the Emotional Sphere

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Enjoy this months lesson.  A simple one, but not easy to apply!  Be prepared, I came straight at you in this lesson.  I couldn't help myself.

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Welcome to the tennis lesson hotline, sponsored by Tom's Tennis Tapes, "educating players one mind at a time". I'm Tom Veneziano. This lesson last approximately 2 minutes and changes on the first of every month.

The Mental Toughness Sphere vs. the Emotional Sphere.   Which one do you reside in for most of your matches?  Here are some characteristics of the Emotional Sphere and the Mental Toughness Sphere that will help you understand when you are in or out of the Mental Toughness Sphere.  The Emotional Sphere is characterized by subjectivity (taking your mistakes personally), over thinking (paralysis by analysis), and dwelling on past failures. The Mental Toughness Sphere is characterized by objectivity (not taking your mistakes personally), correct thinking (relaxed mental attitude), and playing in the here and now.

When negatives, mistakes, and failures become more paramount in your mind than the next shot you know you are in the Emotional Sphere.  You must quickly recognize this and switch back into the Mental Toughness Sphere. How?  Simple!  The Refocus Technique - the next shot is more important than the last mistake.  You must refocus and move on.  Now!  The Refocus Technique is the recovery technique that brings you back into the Mental Toughness Sphere.

Although this is a simple technique and sounds easy, it is amazing how many players cannot forget their mistakes and move on.  The main reason they cannot forget their mistakes and move on is because most players become entangled in the Emotional Sphere.  Listen to some of the answers players give me when I tell them to use the Refocus Technique. Each answer is followed by my response.   I warn you though, I do not pull any punches.   Read on at your own risk.

  1. But, that was such an easy shot I missed!

    Response:  I did not say forget your mistakes and move on only on difficult shots! The Refocus Technique is for ALL mistakes, easy or difficult.

  2. I practiced for months and I still make the same mistakes.

    Response:  Practice some more, forget your mistakes and move on!

  3. I cannot win if I keep making these mistakes.

    Response:  Says who - you!  Have you ever heard of mental toughness, forget your mistakes, get back in the Mental Toughness Sphere, and move on...now!

How is that for being blunt.  The point I am trying to get across is that the principle of forgetting mistakes is more important than the mistake itself.  You are so preoccupied with the problem, you cannot see the solution.  Let me help you.  The solution is to use the Refocus Technique and remain inside the Mental Toughness Sphere...no excuses.

Now, go apply it!

Your email tennis coach,


2000 Tom Veneziano, 10855 Meadowglen #1022, Houston, TX 77042

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